How to not lose friends?
It happens to us from time to time that we lose contact with a friend and after some time it becomes awkward to make a contact even if we want to. It didn’t happen to me recently. I just got reminded of this because I talked to a very good friend today. The conversation was slightly awkward because we talked after a slightly long period.
Such awkward conversations are bound to happen. We can’t stay in constant contact with all of our friends even if there are a handful of them, like in my case. I have 5 or 6 friends with whom I feel comfortable. But I don’t talk to all of them regularly. Of course, not all of them are the same. I talk to one friend if I need emotional support and to the other if I need intellectual stimulation. Every person has a specific role.
Having awkward conversations is not the problem. Awkwardness goes away after a few minutes. What’s important is that we should not take the awkwardness too seriously. If we keep thinking about how weird it was to talk to that person, we are never going to make a contact again.
I am not able to express what I am thinking so I’ll stop here. Also, nothing significant happened. I just got some thoughts after that conversation which was perfectly normal for me but was slightly awkward for my friend. What I have written does not clearly represent what I am thinking. I just can’t put my thoughts into words.
It’s just that I’ve been hearing things like “you have changed” for a long time from my friends. I take it as an alarm that tells me that my work/hobbies are affecting my personal life.